Marriage.

So I’m married.
In fact, we’re married.

My husband (ah) often by habit will talk about ‘his wedding’ or ‘his (future) children’ and I’ll naggingly suggest to him that those things are in fact ours. So let me not fall fault to this trap – we are married.

Wow.

Everyone asks what it’s like, what’s different, what’s so great, how does it feel. These are hard questions to answer. But here are the answers: Marriage is wonderful. Everything’s different. It’s all great. And it feels amazing. And beautiful. And blessed. And challenging. And sanctifying. And more.

I normally sit down to blog with purpose. I actually do have something quite unrelated that I’d like to write about. But I feel strange blogging as per usual without somehow addressing this huge and wonderful change.

The cursor blinking endlessly on this nearly blank screen; however, suggests this is all the addressing I have to do for now. I think this new union will be the source of much that is to come – lessons to be learned, adventures to be undertaken, pain to share, joys to delight in… but for now it’s just bliss. Post-wedding euphoria. And I’m delighted to enjoy it (:

Although, before I forget – here are some wise words for any betrothed, and words I would like to be reminded of myself, if I should ever forget them…

The week before we got married, I went to confession with a wonderful priest… it was one of those confession line-ups you stand in forever where the people before you disappear up to confession for 30+ minutes and then you’re torn between jumping to a line that’s moving faster and staying where you are because that Priest has got to be full of wisdom if he’s talking to her for so long. This time I chose the latter – and this was my reward:

We got talking about getting married and things and he told me this – you are being called to marry this man. This marriage is from God. He is giving you the best. Now, it will bring great joy, and it will bring pain. You will laugh, and there will be tears –don’t be upset when the tears come… this is all part of it. And then he told me - strive to be the better lover. When you are upset with each other, don’t sit around and wait to be apologized to. No, it is a race. Race to apologize first. You do this with everything. God is giving you the best. Now, it is up to you if it will stay the best or not.

I like that.
And am committed to doing my best to protect this best marriage I have been gifted with.